For some people, expressing their love in words can be a challenge. You adore your partner, but you just don’t know how to express that. How can you sum up your history, your joy, and your hopes for the future all in a few paragraphs?
Writing your own wedding vows is a huge undertaking, but it’s well worth it. Personal vows give you the opportunity to share a little of your relationship with your guests and to let your partner know exactly why you chose to spend the rest of your life with them. The right vows can bring a roomful of people to tears—and can be a moment both of you will remember for the rest of your lives.
Check out our top tips for how to write the perfect wedding vows for your big day.
Don’t forget to state the obvious
While it may seem like a no-brainer, many couples leave the words “I love you” out of their vows. So, while the details are important, don’t forget to mention the reason why you’re standing there in the first place!
Promise your support
Wedding days are full of hope and joy, but remember that marriages—and life—are full of valleys as well. Promise your partner that you will stand by them and support them not just during the good times, but during the hard times as well.
Share some personal moments
instead of general statements about love, throw in a few personal stories or jokes. Not only will these moments make your partner smile, but your guests will enjoy hearing vows that are genuine and will be able to see the connection the two of you have.
Make a commitment
Vows are more than cute—they’re a statement of your serious commitment to your partner for the rest of your lives. Make promises in your vows that you intend to keep, whether they’re as big as loving your partner forever or as small as being the one to kill any bugs you get into your home.
Get started early
Your wedding vows are definitely not a task you want to leave until the last minute. Start writing your vows as early as possible, giving yourself plenty of time to edit and rewrite before settling on a final draft.
Don’t try to include everything
A relationship, especially a long one, has many stories and inside jokes, so don’t waste time trying to squeeze in every little detail. Instead, focus on the most important memories and moments, reminding your partner of how well you know them and how deeply you love them.
Let go of your fear of being “cheesy”
Wedding vows are the time to be genuine and sentimental. You don’t have to be funny or avoid corny feelings. Instead, embrace the feelings and express your heartfelt emotions.
No matter how you express your love, your wedding vows should let your partner know that you’ll be there for them through thick and thin, and that you can’t wait to spend the rest of your live by their side.